If your spouse took a new job a few months ago that requires a lot of traveling, your marriage might start experiencing some issues from being apart. Without good communication and a lot of effort, this type of situation could be devastating to a marriage. If you and your spouse are feeling the negative effects of this situation, you should probably find time to visit a relationship counselor for help. A relationship counselor might recommend taking the following steps to solve the issues you are having and build a better marriage in this type of situation.
Talk as much as possible
Having a traveling spouse can lead to poor communication in a marriage, and this can lead to both of you feeling distanced from the other. To remedy this, you and your spouse will have to make more time to talk to each other, and the talks should go beyond the surface level details of both of your lives. In fact, you should try to incorporate the following types of subjects into your conversations:
- Your love for each other
- Things you appreciate in the other
- What each of you feels in your hearts
- Your struggles and trials
- Things you are grateful for
- Your plans for the weekends or for the future
Keeping a good, solid line of communication open is vital for marriages that involve a traveling spouse.
Set up boundaries
With being apart, there is a good chance that each spouse may experience insecurities about the other person and the marriage, and this is why boundaries are important. You should each discuss triggers that make you feel insecure, uncomfortable, or worried, and you should take steps to develop boundaries that will help each of you feel better about the situation.
For example, if one spouse is worried that the other will communicate with people of the opposite gender, give each other access to your phones and phone records so that each spouse can know who the other person talked to. In addition, each of you may want to choose an accountability partner with whom you discuss these things. Your accountability partners can help each of you make good choices while you are apart, and they will hold each of you accountable for your actions.
There are so many other things that you both can do and work on to keep your marriage close, intimate, and strong, and you can learn more by visiting a counselor such as Sharon O'Connell, MA.